April/16/2018 11:43 Filed in: leadership | enccouragement
When I was as younger, I would say things that made light of people’s feelings, insinuating that feelings were not valuable. Out of my youthful zeal, I would even say, “God doesn’t care about your feelings.” Well, that’s not true. God absolutely cares about our feelings! He, in fact, made us emotional beings. Therefore, He wants us to have good and healthy emotional experiences.
It’s important to remember that feelings are not the meat of life, they are the seasoning of life, enhancing or hindering our experience!
As leaders, we need to be aware of the way people feel. We should be sensitive, sympathetic, understanding, and loving towards people regardless of the fact whether their feelings are warranted or not.
This doesn’t mean that we make important decisions based on the emotions of others (or in some cases our own), because that could fall into man pleasing really quick. When we make emotional decisions, it doesn’t just mean we are being sensitive, it means we are immature. Yet we need to be aware of the emotional life. Our job isn’t to make sad or mad people happy, but to make sick people well. Sometimes hurting feelings is part of the job, especially when bringing to light the truth of a matter. Truth can be very painful yet liberating at the same time. We cannot always control the way people feel, but we can always control our approach as we lead others and speaking into their lives.
Three things to remember in being emotionally aware:
1. The Truth
The truth sets us free. The word of God is powerful to deliver people and it is sharp so we should correctly handle it.
2. In Love
Ephesians 4:15(NIV) ...Speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.
3. With Grace
Colossians 4:6 (NASB) Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned, as it were, with salt, so that you may know how you should respond to each person.
“At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou